Couples Counseling

Marriage counseling and relationship therapy to help couples rebuild trust, improve communication, and restore emotional connection.

In-person sessions in Los Altos | Online Therapy throughout California

Reconnect to your partner and to a better version of yourself.

Does this sound like you?

  • You’ve tried everything you can think of to fix your relationship.

  • Nothing is working, and you are losing hope or even considering ending your relationship.

  • You feel more alone when you are with your partner than you do when you are by yourself.

  • You spend more time fighting with each other than providing love and support.

  • You wonder how the most important relationship in my life can be the one that causes you the most pain.

If you can relate to these statements, Couples Therapy might be the right next step.

Couples Therapy is specifically designed for couples in crisis to build back the connection you once felt, while learning to resolve deeply painful conflicts.

Intense conflict is not necessarily a sign that you are in the wrong relationship! It might mean that you and your partner are repeating patterns that no longer serve you. Even the most well-matched couples are vulnerable to common pitfalls that can undermine your connection. The most profound personal growth can come out of relationship conflict, if you have the proper guidance in resolving these conflicts.

You’re ready to:

  • Feel like your needs are being met in your relationship

  • Develop tools for better communication with your partner

  • Improve connection and intimacy

  • Work through feelings of resentment and anger in order to be the best partner possible

  • Rediscover your own sense of self and identity, separate from your relationship

What should we expect during Couples Therapy?

In Couples Therapy, we provide a safe, accepting and nurturing space where we will begin the work of identifying root causes of distress in your relationship. Drawing upon our experience working with couples of all ages and backgrounds, we first assess the dynamics of your relationship and develop a comprehensive customized treatment plan for each of you as individuals and as a couple. We then hand-pick a set of tools that will help you address these relationship-defeating patterns.

During Couples Therapy, you will learn to see your relationship–and your partner–with fresh eyes. You will develop insight into the patterns that keep you stuck, and will learn specific, concrete methods for reshaping these patterns. Our goal is for you to return home with valuable insight, powerful tools and evidence-based techniques to apply in your daily lives.

Using evidence-based approaches like Emotionally Focused Therapy, we will help you create new ways of relating to your partner and asking for what you want and need. You’ll reduce conflict, improve communication, and cultivate that strong connection that brought you together in the first place.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • During the first few couples therapy sessions, we will talk about the struggles that bring you to therapy, your history, and define your goals as a couple. Your Minds Matter therapist will have a real-life, practical, and straightforward approach. This means they will be actively engaged in sessions, helping you to achieve your goals as a couple.

  • How long you will be in couples therapy depends on your needs. The research suggests that most couples feel improvement in 12 - 15 sessions, and we would expect the same. Some couples feel better enough that they graduate within that time. Others find that they enjoy the process of therapy and want to continue as their lives change and evolve. Our goal is to help you meet your relationship goals as soon as possible. As long as couples therapy continues to be helpful, we’ll be here to support you.

  • While we can’t make guarantees, we can tell you that I know growth, healing and change are possible. We see it everyday as we witness our clients' relationships evolve and improve.

    Study after study has shown that the quality of the relationship between clients and therapist is the most reliable and the most powerful predictor of a positive outcome in couples therapy, which is why we offer a free consultation to ensure your Minds Matter therapist is the right person to help you and your partner.

  • Contact us to schedule a free consultation. It’s important that both you and your partner feel comfortable with your therapist, and we’ll help you decide if we’re the right fit for you.